Behind on Your Mortgage: A Calm First-Steps Guide

What actually happens, in what order, who helps for free, and what to be careful of — without the panic.

Updated July 29, 2026

Falling behind on a mortgage starts a process — not an event. The process has stages, most stages leave room to act, and acting earlier preserves more options. This guide is general information, not legal advice; the resources below can address your specific situation.

First steps, in order

  1. Open the mail and answer the phone. Deadlines and options are in those letters, and ignoring them only removes choices.
  2. Call your loan servicer and ask about loss-mitigation options — repayment plans, forbearance, and loan modification. Servicers are generally required to review alternatives.
  3. Contact a HUD-approved housing counselor. Their advice is free, confidential, and independent — hud.gov/findacounselor or 1-800-569-4287.
  4. Get legal advice for legal questions — foreclosure timelines, bankruptcy, and estate complications belong with a qualified attorney.

Be careful of

  • Anyone who asks you to sign over your deed 'temporarily'
  • Upfront fees for foreclosure 'rescue' — legitimate counseling is free
  • Pressure to sign anything on the spot
  • Promises that sound like guarantees — outcomes depend on your loan and situation

Where we fit

If keeping the home isn't workable, a sale you control is a very different outcome from a foreclosure — and there may be more ways to run one than you've been told. A private, judgment-free conversation about where things stand costs nothing and stays confidential.

Source: U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (housing counselor program)